'Stuck in thought?' I can help.
Have you ever found yourself 'stuck in thought'? That's when it seems that a way of thinking that you don't want just won't go away. People who are 'stuck in thought' can feel helpless and hopeless. But there is hope. I can help you to break free from thought patterns that aren't helpful by giving you the tools that you need.
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It is YOUR life. You can change the ways that you think and operate. Nothing is fixed unless you want it to be. I can give you the skills and the tools to help you change your life for the better.
Who you are is who you are.
When things go wrong do you end up saying: "This is rubbish: I'm useless!"
If you do, you're not alone! So many people define themselves by what they do and not who they are.
One of the most powerful things that you can ever do is to separate what you do from who you are. What you do is just that: what you do.
Who you are is who you are and nothing can change that. Nothing can weaken it; it is who you are. And it is freeing!
I was quite young when I had my first session of life coaching, I must have been about 10 and I can’t really remember much about the period before I started. I must have mentally blocked it because I just wasn’t happy. Family things and not knowing where I stood at school left me feeling uncharacteristically low. I would fly off the wall at my friends, peers and teachers. I was constantly on edge and I felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders. Added to this, I didn’t know what on earth was happening to me, I just felt so negative and cynical. My parents were worried, obviously, and there was a mutual agreement that I should try life coaching.
I must have had around 4 sessions and each time I left feeling more optimistic. Stephen taught me that my problems were small, I just was scared of them. I remember drawing one of the diagrams he drew me. My problems, in the first picture, were bigger than me, this was the negative view. The positive view was that I was bigger than my problems. I stuck the diagrams on my wall for about half a year and it was a way of reminding myself to be positive.
I think without the coaching I would still be down, but know I’m thriving at school and at being more positive. I’m determined not to get like that again.
Since working with Stephen I feel I have made a lot of progress, and learned lots about how I can make a difference to the way I think. His caring relaxed approach makes you feel comfortable and at ease to talk and to listen. Stephen has a wealth of knowledge, and bases his work on recent research and articles. Stephen has helped me to become a lot more positive - I feel empowered to keep moving forward with personal matters, and feel his guidance and support helps me to make a difference to my life. I can't thank him enough!
Welcome to Stephen Long Coaching
Why did I
This is the title of my e-book, which is now available in Kindle format from .
Below is an extract from the e-book. I request that you read it only. No portion of the text may be used without permission from the author.
Why did I do that?
Have you ever asked yourself the question: "Why did I do that?" Or: “Why did I feel that?” For instance, have you been in situations where you have lost your temper and said things in the heat of the moment that you later wish you hadn’t; or where you have felt fearful or highly anxious at the thought of attending your doctor or dentist appointment, or travelling on an Underground tube train or a plane, but afterwards wondered what all the fuss was about? Have you ever waited to give a presentation for which you were thoroughly prepared; yet, still felt a sense of sheer panic rise within you? If you have, to any of these examples and countless more besides, then this book may offer you a helpful explanation. In it I explain, in layman's terms, what I believe is going on within our brain when these kinds of things happen and why we often behave the way we do. What I hope will be just as beneficial is to share advice about what we can do to help avoid responding in such a panic-stricken or out of control way the next time the situation arises.
At the time of writing some of this book, I had begun the study module: Cognitive Psychology with Derby University, UK and later studied Biological Psychology followed by Developmental Psychology. The first two modules demonstrated how extraordinarily complex the workings of the brain are when processing information and decision-making. Unquestionably in this book, I have both grossly over-simplified and in fact wrongly explained (in the case of The Computer – please see Chapter 1 for an explanation of what I refer to as The Computer) the workings of the brain. However, while I fully acknowledge that the model presented in this book is both a dramatic simplification and further, not how we currently understand the brain to function, I make no apologies for doing that. Such an in-depth study of the brain by Cognitive and Biological Psychologists, and especially neuroscientists, is vital to enhance our understanding of the brain and its almost incomprehensible workings. However, a thorough grasp of what is actually occurring within the brain at a neurological level probably won’t help you when you’re trying to wrestle with why you said what you said to your wife or boss that you now bitterly regret saying! It is therefore a simplistic and inaccurate model that I have presented! But this is, I believe, the book’s strength because it serves as a useful model that can help explain what in the world is going on within our heads; and just as importantly, what can be done about it to change.
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I'd just like to say a big thank you for all the help you have given Gavin. Some close friends of ours who we have not seen for a while, actually said that they could not believe the change in Gavin, he was talking with confidence and joining in with his own opinions, which he would never have done before.
Stephen's coaching was fantastic. He taught me how my emotional brain works and gave me effective tools on how to manage it. The key thing for me was understanding that when my emotional brain wants to panic or feel low that it isn't me and that the rational part of my brain needs to be mobilised to manage it. His support, reassurance and positivity make him an undeniably amazing coach and I would recommend him unquestionably.
We all have the power to dream and through the kindness, understanding and encouragement of my coach I am now a much happier and positive me!